96 – IARLG – OUR OTHER PARENTS AND OUR TWO PARENTS; Date 25th December 2015; 13th or 14th Rabi Al Awwal 1437

Date: 25th December 2015; 13th/14th Rabi Al Awwal 1437;

Source: Notes of 70th and 80th surah have been taken from Tafseer of Abdul Nasir Jangda

ISLAMIC AL-JUMUAA REMINDER AND LEGACY GROUP (http://aljumaareminder.com/) reminds about the ranks of parents in front of Allah:

OUR OTHER PARENTS

There are many Ayats (verses) in the Qur’an which show the importance of treating the Parents well. It is our duty as Muslims to love Allah and His Messenger before loving anyone else. It is also important to note that many Muslims think they only have two parents. The wives of Prophet Muhammad (SAW) are our (us believers) mothers and this is because Allah says so. Our ultimate indirect father and mother is Adam and Hawa respectively and that is why Allah calls us as Children of Adam.

The Prophet is closer to the believers than their ownselves, and his wives are their (believers’) mothers. …(Qur’an 33:6)

Not to mention names; but some Muslims speak badly about the wives of the Prophet and by doing so they are actually speaking badly about their mothers. But believers can’t speak badly about their mothers, can they? Allah revealed the Ayat Qur’an 24:6 which exposed the slander of the past and the future slanders which we are witnessing in our times.

Verily, those who brought forth the slander (against Aishah the wife of the Prophet SAW) are a group among you. Consider it not a bad thing for you. Nay, it is good for you. To every man among them will be paid that which he has earned of the sin, and as for him among them who has the greater share therein, his will be a great torment. (Qur’an 24:6)

 

OUR TWO PARENTS

Now let us see some Ayats of how we should treat our parents. For example whatever you spend of good must be for parents first and foremost; then the categories of other people follow. We believe people must spend on parents whether dead or alive. If the parent(s) is/are dead; we should spend on them or him/her via sadaqatul jaria (ongoing sadaqa) at best or at least on normal charity. It would also be best to always say what Allah told us to say in Quran 17:24 below.

They ask you (O Muhammad SAW) what they should spend. Say: Whatever you spend of good must be for parents and kindred and orphans and Al-Miskin (the needy) and the wayfarer, and whatever you do of good deeds, truly, Allah knows it well. (Qur’an 2:215)

And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour. (Qur’an 17:23)

And lower to them the wing of submission and humility through mercy and say: “My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was young.” (Qur’an 17:24)

And We have enjoined man to be good and dutiful to his parents; but if they strive to make you join with Me (in worship) anything (as a partner) of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not. To Me is your return and I shall tell you what you used to do. (Qur’an 29:8)

And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship, and his weaning is in two years – give thanks to Me and to your parents. To Me is the final destination. (Qur’an 31:14)

But if they (both) strive with you to join in worship with Me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not; but behave with them in the world kindly, and follow the path of him who turns to Me in repentance and in obedience. Then to Me will be your return, and I shall tell you what you used to do. (Qur’an 31:15)

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{Good Manners and Form (Al-Adab) }Imams Bukhari and Muslim reported that the Messenger sallallahu `alayhiwasallam said:

“Three persons of a people before you, were on a journey when they were overtaken by a storm and therefore they took shelter in a cave. A rock slipped down from the mountain and blocked the exit from cave.

One of them said: “The only way for deliverance left is to beseech Allah in the name of some virtuous deed.” Thereupon one of them supplicated, “O Lord, my parents were very old, I used to offer them their nightly drink of milk before my children and the other members of the family. One day I went astray far away in search of green trees and could return only after my parent had gone to sleep. When I had milked the animals and brought their nightly drink to them, They were fast asleep, but I did not like to disturb them, nor would give any part of the milk to my children and other members of the family till after my parents had their drink. Thus, with the vessel in hand, I awaited their awakening till the flush of dawn, While the children cried out of hunger at my feet. When they woke up, they had their drink. O Lord, if I did this thing seeking only your pleasure, then do relieve us of the distress wrought upon us by this rock.” Thereupon, The rock moved a little but that not enough to let them pass out.

Then the second man supplicated: “O Lord, I had a cousin whom I loved her more passionately than any loves a woman. I tried to seduce her but she would have none of me, till in a season of great hardship due to famine, she approached me (for help) and I gave her one hundred and twenty Dinars on condition that she would have sexual intercourse with me. She agreed, and when we got together and I was just going to have intercourse with her, she pleaded: ‘Fear Allah, and do not break the seal unlawfully’; whereupon I moved away from her, despite the fact that I desired her most passionately; and I let her keep the money I had given her. O Lord, if I did this thing seeking only your pleasure, then do move the distress in which we find ourselves.” Again the rock moved a little but not enough to let them pass out.

Then the third supplicated: “O Lord, I hired some laborers and paid them their dues, but one of them left leaving behind what was due to him. I invested it in business and the business prospered greatly.” After a time the laborer came back and said: ‘O servant of Allah, hand over to me my wages.’ I said to him: ‘All that you see is yours – camels, cattle, goats and slaves.’ He said: ‘Don’t play joke with me, O servant of Allah.’ I assured him: ‘I am not joking.’ So he took all of it sparing nothing. O Lord, If I did this seeking only for your pleasure, do relieve us of our distress.”

The rock then moved away, and all the three came out of the cave safe and sound.

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That Day that the sky will be like the boiling filth of oil, and the mountains will be flakes of wool. And no friend will ask a friend (about his condition) Though they shall be made to see one another. The Mujrim, (criminal, sinner, disbeliever) would desire to ransom himself from the punishment of that Day by his children, and his wife and his brother, and his kindred who sheltered him, and all that are in the earth, so that it might save him. By no means! Verily, it will be the Fire of Hell, taking away (burning completely) the head skin! (Qur’an 70:8-16)

Then when there comes As-Sakhkhah (the second blowing of the Trumpet on the Day of Resurrection) – That Day shall a man flee from his brother, and from his mother and father, and from his wife and his children. Everyman that Day will have enough to make him careless of others. (Qur’an 80:33-37)

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70th Surah (Al-Ma’arij) – [The Ways of Ascent]

80th Surah (Abasa) – [He Frowned]

his children his brother
his wife – the wife whom one gets along well; his soul mate; best friend his mother and father
No mention of any Parent his wife– the wife whom one gets along well; his soul mate; best friend
his brother his children

The sequence of what has been mentioned of family in the 70th surah is from the closest to the farthest. From the people you have the most compassion for and slowly outward; the 70th surah talks about offering ransom and hence one offers the most valuable precious thing; starting with his children, wife, brother and so on while excluding parents.

The sequence of what has been mentioned of family in the 80th surah is from the farthest to nearest. The 80th surah talks about running away from people; first he runs way from the siblings; then who knows where to find him next? The parents; then who knows him better in sequence? His wife and then his children.

In the 70th surah when giving out ransom; why aren’t the parents mentioned? Why are they mentioned in the 80th surah, not the 70th surah. Who is the Mujrim trying to offer this ransom to? He is offering these ransoms to Allah and he doesn’t mention the parents because Allah told him to be respect and honour them no matter what. This also agrees with the hadith above where a person gave preference to his old parents over his own children and other members of the family and Allah was pleased.

96 - IARLG - OUR OTHER PARENTS AND OUR TWO PARENTS; Date 25th December 2015; 13th or 14th Rabi Al Awwal 1437 (82 downloads)

 

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